Wives Coping with Husbands Midlife Crisis
How Do Wives Survive a Husband’s Midlife Crisis
We all have a lot of stereotypes about male midlife crisis. We picture a balding 50 year old taking out a gym membership, buying a fancy car, or maybe even chatting up other women. Most of these times we picture a mild case where the symptoms of a male midlife crisis are sort of annoying, but even somehow, cute. However, some men go through more intense changes which can have some painful consequences for everybody around them!
Discovery Health posted an article on surviving a mate’s midlife crisis with some concrete tips and links to other resources. This transition, and crisis, can be survived (in some cases) with the same good sense and relationships that take couples through other rocky periods of their married lives. Sometimes the problems are more severe, and the couple may need to seek professional help. In some cases, the spouse will not seek professional help. In this case, it may be best for the wife to seek her own help. As they say, Half A Loaf is Better Than None!
- You cannot control everything. Mostly, you are probably doing all you can to control your own reactions. Accept this, and also avoid blaming yourself for symptoms of midlife crisis in your husband or partner. They will, possibly, be doing a good job of blaming you in order to take the edge off of their own guilt.
- Along this same line of thought, try to keep yourself from taking your mate’s actions personally. If you want to get past a husband’s midlife crisis, you cannot keep thinking that everything he does is all about you. His midlife crisis is about him.
- Try to take the middle road. If you work to hard at showing your affection, or if you start making threats about what you will do if he does not change, you will probably find your efforts are, at best, in vain. At worst, they can work against you. If you do not know what to do, and the symptoms are intolerable, please do not hesitate to seek professional help.
For more information to help wives get past a husband’s midlife crisis, this book has gotten some good feedback from other forums:
How to Survive Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis: Strategies and Stories from the Midlife Wives Club
